issue of Complex Magazine where she talks
about her upcoming movie, plastic surgery,
love, divorce and her sexy movies and music.
When asked how she would "respond to
people who criticized your "Booty" video and
asked what your kids will say when they see
it?" She said;
I'm not allowed to be sexy because I'm a
mom? It's like, How do you think I got my
children? [Laughs.] The truth is I don't
want to do anything that they would be
embarrassed of in the long run. But at the
end of the day, they care more about me
being there, taking care of them, than if
I'm sexy in a video. And I'm not saying
that one day they may not be like, "Mom!
Why did you do that?!"
[Laughs.] But I don't think that in 10 years
I'm going to be doing that either. Again,
it's about what feels good to me in this
moment. It felt right. It's a good message
for women. I'm standing next to this girl
who is 24 years old and I'm in my 40s and
there's no difference. Women need to see
that and feel that. You can't let the fear of
what people might say or think stop you
from doing what you want to do or else
we would never do anything.
On how her divorce affected her, since for
her parents, divorce was not an option, and
they stayed together through thick and
thin for more than 30 years.
They stayed together for a long time, and
when they did divorce, it was shocking.
But [that was] what we were taught: that
you got married and stayed married.
Talking about self-esteem, when my first
marriage didn't work out, my second
marriage didn't work out, and I was with
Marc [Anthony] and I was trying to make it
work, and that didn't work out, it was
devastating. Each time I felt like such a
failure, from what I'd been taught. Those
are things that grate on your self-esteem.
"OK, I failed. Why can't I make this work?"
But it forces you to look at yourself in the
best way possible. I'm grateful for all
those trials and tribulations because with
that you gain perseverance and the desire
to learn and grow. So I'm happy about
those experiences now. They're painful in
the moment, but now I see myself as a
brave warrior princess who keeps going
no matter what, and who has learned to
cherish the things that matter in life,
which is finding my own happiness first
and then being able to share that with not
just people in my life but with the world.
On having low self-esteem in the past, and
why so many beautiful women are
insecure?
It's not just beautiful women. It's all
women. And it's all men, too. It's
everyone. People are more surprised
when they hear that somebody who is
attractive is insecure. I don't understand
that because, again, we're all human.
Nobody looks in the mirror and goes,
"That person is so perfect!" It's just the
nature of a human being that they have
insecurities. You try to do things that
you're proud of to boost up your self-
esteem and your integrity. At the end of
the day, you're the only person who can
give that to you. That's something that
everybody struggles with at one time or
another. I'm no different than anybody
else in that sense.
On plastic surgery, unreal bodies, and
concerns for her young daughter
Yeah, the bodies right now are…unreal...
Yeah, what is she gonna want to do, or
how good is she gonna feel about herself?
I hope to show her from example that
you have to love yourself for who you are.
And that doesn't mean that you can't do
things to enhance yourself, like work out,
or if somebody wants to get a nose job. I
don't know. You can take a hard stance on
things and then eat your words later. All
I'm saying is, at the end of the day, you
got to feel happy about who you are
inside, and then you can make good
choices for yourself.
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