of domestic abuse from her husband who lives
& works abroad. She wrote the story herself
because she says she's desperate and needs
help. Read below...
I am Mrs. Uche, I got married 2 years ago
to a man who lives and works abroad. I
am currently going through some hell
called marriage. I am abused
psychologically, emotionally, financially
and otherwise.
It all started a year after our wedding.
That same sumptuous guy I thought was
an angel changed automatically into a
legendary nightmare. I stopped seeing
those characteristics I thought he had
before we walked down the aisle to
profess our love. He became so arrogant,
wicked and proud.
He started by rejecting my second pregnancy,
hence accusing me of infidelity. Before my
first pregnancy, I accepted his younger sister
who is a little bit older than me into our home
with love, hoping to get some love and
appreciation for my kindness. The reverse
became the case. This lady turned out to be
the most painful bee sting I've ever had in life.
She hated me and some of my visiting siblings
for no just cause. It got to a point where she
started leveling all sorts of unimaginable
accusations against me (including doing charms
and cheating on his brother).
Being naïve, my husband never really
confronted me based on any of the
accusations; all he did was act on them instead.
I was never protected, defended nor spoken
for by my beloved husband, not even when he
knew that his family members hated me with
passion before our solemnization.
As days went into weeks, and weeks into
months, my pride was taken away from me.my
hubby started treating me as though I was a
maid. He practically took decisions with his
sister on my behalf, all they do was to make
me accepted their decisions, which practically
degraded, demoralized and killed my pride as
a wife and mother. All I did was to look unto
God for the grace and strength to persevere.
My second pregnancy, which was to make my
husband of just one year mellow down and
recognize me as his lovely wedded wife, did
nothing but worsened the entire drama.
"…so what they have been telling me is true
eh? If you are truly pregnant, you will suffer…"
Those were the exact words of my love the
moment I told him that I was pregnant with
our second baby. Well he meant it, because he
seized calling us like he used to, he stopped
giving us financial support meant for feeding
and domestic expenses, knowing fully well that
I can neither work nor do business, since our
first child (who was always sick) was just seven
(7) months old and besides am down with
another one.
I went through hell just to survive with my
baby; it got so bad that I had to fall back to my
struggling parents for financial support. I didn't
start antenatal until the eight (8th) month of
my pregnancy, which I won't recommend for
any expecting mother.
This estranged man called and sent us some
money for hospital bills when I was due for
delivery, warning me that I shouldn't welcome
any of my family members (particularly my
mum) into our home when I put to bed.
I had complications during that child birth, and
not one member of his family visited me at
the hospital but my family members especially
my mum were all there to support and help a
dying daughter. Thank God for the gift of life.
That little concern he showed during my child
birth vanished shortly after I was discharged,
and this time around things got worse, he
neither called to know how our new born baby
faired nor to ask after our first child. As a
fathered he failed his children and as a
husband he betrayed and failed me.
I have called him on many occasions to plead
with him to show us some love and care, but
he's too proud to hear me as all my pleas fell
on deaf ears. To abuse us the more he ignored
an emergency call put across to him by me for
financial support when his first child was
critically sick.
Recently he called meon phone yelling like a
horning train and calling me names like
'demon','witch' and many more, on the bases
that his siblings told him some scary and
terrifying secrets about me which am yet to
find out .
To crown it all he recently threatened to
physically abuse me if he comes back from
abroad, and he said it's real soon.
l don't wish to continue dwelling in this
emotional trauma since the marriage is not
really working . I want out, but I don't know
how to go about it.Moreover as a graduate, I
neither work nor trade.
Therefore I appeal to well-meaning Nigerian
advocates to advise me on what steps to take
in order to remain in custody of my two(2)
children (aged 18 and 7 months respectively)
as I fear that he's coming to take my bundle of
joy away from me.
Thank You.
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